The other day a friend told me I was not prepared for marriage because I refused to accept blame for something that wasn't my fault. (I think he was 30% joking)
I counter that it isn't an issue of being unprepared, rather it is me enjoying that freedom while I still can.
Thoughts?
Carol
3 years ago
5 comments:
There is definitely a huge difference between being unprepared for marriage and enjoying the freedoms of single life while you still can. I'd agree that you're not unprepared - why take the blame while you don't have to, especially when it's not your blame to accept in the first place?
ummmm....prepared to be single for a long time if that is your stance. The focus of marraige has nothing to do with yourself, rather the other person. When it comes to marriages that fail, I'd bet that nearly 100% of the root of the problem comes to selfishness. whether it's your fault or not has nothing to do with it.
Here is a helpful hint..."you are probably right dear"
note the "probably"...but it still will get you out of a lot of trouble!
I think you didn't understand my stance. In a relationship, "you are probably right dear" is fine. I know that. While not in a relationship, however, I ain't dealing with it.
Christa gets it. :)
When you're ready, you're ready. When you're not, you're not. My husband had plenty of dates that went nowhere, because he just wasn't at that point in his life yet. He finally decided that he'd start looking around to marry, and 2 months later he met me. However a mutual friend tried to set us up on a date 4 years before we met, and if we'd met then, we many have been friends but wouldn't have married.
I am sick of people trying to convince all single people they need to get married RIGHT NOW. Be single, enjoy it. If the time comes when you're not content, then do something about it.
(P.S. I love being married, and an in no way saying I wish I were single. I was ready to move on and did. But as an LDS girl in Utah who didn't get married till (the horror!) 22, I've seen and felt the pressure. I had life I needed to live, to become the person I am to have the happy marriage I have.)
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